The Game and the Death of Honesty
Lessons from Delusion
October 16, 2025
The so-called pickup philosophy taught men how to manipulate attention, control perception, and extract affection without love. It offered the illusion of power to those who felt invisible. But its core was deceit — the conscious construction of a false self.
Every time a man lies to impress, he wounds his own capacity for truth. Every time he treats a woman as an object to win, he dulls his conscience. The player learns to read reactions but loses the ability to see persons. What begins as performance soon becomes identity: he can no longer stop performing even when alone.
The great lie of The Game is that confidence can be built on dishonesty. Real confidence comes from clean motives, not rehearsed lines. A truthful man may be awkward, but he is trustworthy; a deceiver may be charming, but he is hollow.
When honesty dies, so does intimacy — not only with others, but with God. Repentance restores both. To confess deceit is to let the heart breathe again. What The Game called success was slavery to vanity; what Christ calls success is freedom from it.